How can we change habits, improve ourselves, lead a good life with success and results?
We have heard the saying: “where focus goes, energy flows”. And it`s kinda like that, what you focus on expands, simply what we have our attention is the experience we get. But we often forget the other half of the equation:
What you resist, persist…
Meaning what we don’t want to see or feel with ourself or about certain things, may persist and will come up in our life again and again, for the reasons that we are ignoring it, again and again, It`s like a fundamental universal law.
These inner unresolved thoughts, feelings and sensations can truly hold us back and sabotasje for our gains or the success we seek.
So how do we overcome our inner obstacles or resistance? Overcoming outer obstacles or challenges can seem easier, or at least that’s what we are more used to. If we wanna increase our muscle composition or strength in lifting certain things- we need to put in consistent training with repetitions over time- and voilà – one day we are getting there.
But how do we increase mental focus, clarity, short term memory like remember a person’s name that we just met, and master our inner world and perception about our self. Let`s say we get noticed by a healthcare provider or our own body – that we need to get in shape by start exercising. But how do we shift our perception and motivation from being driven to stay away from physical exercise, to suddenly see exercising as the only option for improving our health?
Easier said than done, yet there are new evolved ways as we combine the knowledge of the mind & body, working with introspection and mental constructions. It`s similar to external things we are doing, like training and conversations, but it`s a new way and language to take these internally, see and engage with our inner world of ideas, beliefs and visuals – expressed by numerous different parts of our own psychi – Mind.
The Mind indeed got a structure, just like the body.
Our inner game interact with outer change
What is so difficult about implementing habits that you know are good for you?
What thoughts or feelings come up when you ask yourself this question?
See if you can understand the “why” behind it?
Listen and truly see the reason/s underneath why it’s hard to implement and adapt to the changes you wanna make, the actions you wanna do – goals you have set.
In this process you may get to know parts of you, (sub personalities), thoughts, feelings, emotions and sensations. And especially the one/s who are not agreeing or resisting the change or contradictions. Know it`s nothing wrong, it`s the nature of the mind, to be multiple.
All thoughts can be seen as their own system, persons or being, that are formed and shaped in multiple different ways, to contribute to our lives in so many beautiful unique ways. Everything from personal joy, creativity, bounding, managing our health, social area, protect and serve in multiple ways.
How to shift the resist that persist?
When a big challenge, life crisis or problem happens in our life, often during our earliest years, with stronger formation of the brain and developing belief systems. There`s a need for understanding, putting that experience into context, expressing it, integrating and moving on. Like for example being called a loser by people around you, or a failure by your earliest cartalkers- these deep early believe that we aren’t worthy get`s stored and runned on autopilot, unconsciously sabotaging our self cause we`r still caught up back there..
Being honest and true to our self is recognising the patterns in our life, both the positive traits and gifts with our character, and the negative ones that limits our full expression and potentials.
A lot of things have slipped into our unconscious as we got older, and often can we see them. We have just learned to ignore parts of our Self, for so many reasons, like not being called wired for being connected to our inner world. Men are told to not show emotions, hence ignoring them and so on..
It all starts with awareness and remembering who we are.
For people that practise meditation, are more introspective, we get the ability to listen within – the tools of observation and deeper self reflection. For us that are internally sensitive in these ways we see our personal patterns and habitual ways of living. And only by first becoming aware, we can make shifts and gradually change. What we often forget is who we truly are, before we were forming our world by our thinking and perspectives, as innocent babies, children and even prior to that.
Without thinking, believing, seeing true narrowed perspectives and getting attacked with what we identity with. We are something much more than any words can fully comprehend. The experience of being who you are today, is layered by your many conscious and unconscious choices. And we can let the fullness of our self remains a mystery, so for now we will simply call what we inherently are, for our True Self (the inherent goodness of our human soul, essence or consciousness).
Who and what we truly are, is always more than the sum of our parts and what we can identify with.